Hello my beautiful child, You are almost grown up. Almost a teenager and I never written you a letter like this before. I sit here and wonder about all the things I want to tell you, to teach you and to share with you. But there just don’t seem to be enough “right” moments. Or […]
This year started off with a bang. In January 2016, I broke both my ankle bones. And that wasn’t even the worst part of the damned year. Physical pain I came to learn, bad as it may seem, doesn’t hold a candle to the emotional pain of a fractured marriage. My chronically ill marriage was […]
“Somedays I wish I could go back in life. Not to change anything but to feel a few things twice” Pregnancy is one such magical experience in a woman’s life. I would give anything to feel again for the first time those happy hormones that make you ecstatic forgetting all the realities. After all it […]
If someone asks me how you sailed out of your period of separation, I would in a moment say- family, friends and work! A lot of studies have found out that we are happier when we are with our friends as compared to when we are with our spouse/ family! We can comfortably share stuff […]
We were on vacation to Manali, when my ex claimed that he had another emergency business meeting in Mumbai. He abandoned our son and me midway into our holiday. Our flight was scheduled the next day, anyways. I ignored the sinking sensation in my stomach the entire day. We returned to Mumbai the next day […]
Some of the best advice I received during my initial days of second bachelorhood is take a break, go out and be with friends. I tried it. But the friend circle I had was limited. The friends with whom I did not have much touch with during married days, I did not get the same […]
‘Why don’t you sleep on time?’, used to be my question most of the nights. ‘Oh, why don’t you carry on and sleep while I finish this action movie’ used to be my then-husband’s reply. Once, I woke up at around midnight and caught him watching (no, not a war scene but) an X rated […]
Back in 2005 when I was in the US and still married, a dear friend – Auntie A, as my son calls her (back then she was a single mom) gifted my son a Christmas stocking. Handing over the stocking she said, ” From now on that’s where the card requesting Christmas presents from Santa […]
As a working mum, I often felt guilt about not being there for my child. Was I missing out on the best years? Would the bond we shared be strong enough to get us through the teenage years? Would we be able to be friends when she was all grown up in her twenties? Would […]
Why hide away, I ask you. Aren’t these the best years of my life? When friends invited me out I would wonder how I could ever fit in again. They had their boyfriends/girlfriends or husbands/wives. Me? I am single. And to top it all I am a mom. So whatever would I have in common […]
I was afraid if I can manage life after my loss... But knowing all of you I gained the belief that I can survive. I used to cry for hours together though I knew he is not going to come back and crying will not change anything better. Sharing my depression with this group and the way you handled me gave the confidence that I have ppl on the same boat to help me and motivate me when I am down.... Now that I know I have the liberty to crib and feel low... I am not at all feeling low . If I had not known this group, I would have pretended to be happy in weekends and spent my time crying on weekdays. I would have entered depression without my knowledge.... Now I am sure that even if I want to go into depression I cannot . Thanks for all your support. Thanks for bringing me into this group
When I was hunting for a safe, credible, sensible and useful group for single moms, I came to know about the Phoenix community. Initially, I was skeptical cos it was run by a single dad. However, I gave it a shot and since then, there has been no moment where I regretted for it. It's a family of strong people, who are different from the lot and have beautiful perspective towards things in life. In this group, I feel at home and feel good to celebrate the good days, vent out on the frustrating days, cry on the depressed days and yet I know they would never look down upon me. The wavelength and the bonding is so strong that you can never fall apart or go wrong even if you wish to.
Hats off to the man who is keeping the group intact with his light headedness ( I didn't mean it literally), wisdom, practical solutions and for giving a different angle to all kind of problems faced by the fellow members of the family. It takes enormous commitment and he is fantastic!!!
Looking forward to a great family/community for the single parents who can be rest assured that they will never be mistaken or judged, whatever profession they may be!!! I am myself, when am in the family....thanks to all the beautiful people out here....