Until last June, whenever my son received a birthday party invite I dreaded it. Not because I did not want him to go and enjoy the birthday party, but I knew what would be our conversation that night at bedtime. Since the age of 5 after each birthday party, during bedtime while I would be […]
The leaves are shriveling in absence of water. They don’t remember what color they were, How the breeze made them sway, Or how sunshine reflected off of them. They’re barely surviving in the dull brown that they hv become now. They see the flowering plant nearby blooming in all its glory, watered and cared for, […]
It wasn’t a fairy tale romance or love at first sight. A casual friendship took a turn at Cupid’s street. The friend turned into mon amour. In his company, I experienced beautiful feelings I never experienced before. After two decades on this planet this was a very new discovery and I wanted to enjoy it […]
Some of the best advice I received during my initial days of second bachelorhood is take a break, go out and be with friends. I tried it. But the friend circle I had was limited. The friends with whom I did not have much touch with during married days, I did not get the same […]
‘Why don’t you sleep on time?’, used to be my question most of the nights. ‘Oh, why don’t you carry on and sleep while I finish this action movie’ used to be my then-husband’s reply. Once, I woke up at around midnight and caught him watching (no, not a war scene but) an X rated […]
Just like any ordinary Indian woman, I began my married life with lots of hope and dreams. During the first one year, I took things in my stride. My husband was very specific about his wants and needs. Every time he looked at me, while I was eager to meet his eyes and have a […]
After joining an all-women’s group of more than 10000 women on Facebook, I noticed the increasing trend of anonymous posts by women facing domestic abuse, but unable to raise their voices due to lack of support from their parents and financial dependence on their husbands! These women only need a ray of hope, soothing words […]
Back in 2005 when I was in the US and still married, a dear friend – Auntie A, as my son calls her (back then she was a single mom) gifted my son a Christmas stocking. Handing over the stocking she said, ” From now on that’s where the card requesting Christmas presents from Santa […]
5 years ago, on this very day, I was the happiest girl in the world. Against all odds, I was marrying the man who meant the world to me. Last year, today, I didn’t want to be in the same house as him anymore. I hoped that no one would remember my wedding anniversary, I didn’t […]
Finally, its judgement day!! My mind is serene. It raced back to an evening 6 years ago. I could see a shadow of me waiting outside the Court mediation center, confused and flustered. My almost 4 year old was chatting cheerfully with her Dad and her paternal family. Everyone appeared pleased, but me. The talks […]
Phoenix family has made a huge impact on life! M only saying this because, I met a friend of mine recently. We hadn't talked since 8 years! She said that she had seen a drastic change in me. Accordingly, I was an extremely shy woman the last time we met! But now, I am a whole new person!! I am more confident, determined and focused on what I want in life, not only that, I can manage and keep things well balanced which I could not have 8 years ago... For this drastic change in me, phoenix family is one of the main reasons. So thanks a lot for playing a great role in my life and making me what I am today!
I joined this group after months of apprehension. But it turned out to be a great group. I found that I can be myself without being judged. I can express views without being afraid of being seen in wrong light. I can discuss things that I was not able to discuss with my family or other friends. It is a great tonic for me to come out of the loneliness and meet others who are going through similar situations. In addition to this the admin and members work hard in keeping people informed about legal and professional knowledge. I would and have recommended people to this group. I also wish there would be more initiatives like this in other parts of India.
Aakash VaniSeparated, Mom of 7 year old