2017 — a year that changed my life. Things that I thought would last forever came to an end this year. My discoveries of being betrayed hurt every bone of my body till I became numb. I was filled with anger and rage. Wanted to destroy them all. My family & close friends stood by […]
Last week I was watching my regular reality TV show when I started feeling a change in my mood. I was beginning to relate one of the characters on TV with my late wife. Then out of nowhere a flood of emotions, mostly sadness and anger, ensued. This is not the first time that I […]
Where do you see yourself one hour from now? This was the question I asked myself every time I attended the family court sessions only to find that my ex had asked for more time and the next hearing date would be about a month later. This would be the question I asked myself before […]
Be a part of tomorrow, because you matter. World suicide prevention day.
As much as we wish and pray that the ex be gone from our life, they don’t. They were a part of our past life, and will be a part of our future life. It may be not to the extent as it was in the past, but at least to some minimal level. Especially […]
If someone asks me how you sailed out of your period of separation, I would in a moment say- family, friends and work! A lot of studies have found out that we are happier when we are with our friends as compared to when we are with our spouse/ family! We can comfortably share stuff […]
“Daddy, I do not want to talk about it”, was my then 6 year old’s response when I asked him if he missed his mother. I was worried he was suppressing his grief and needed to be more expressive. It all started when his class teacher noticed he was making more than usual drawings in […]
Year 2013- My son was 6 years old and was attending school. I was with the doctor. The doctor held my hand and said it was over. Your wife is no more, please start informing your family – was his message. The first thing which struck me was how was I going to disclose this […]
Most of us who become bachelor(ette) the second time around, are often told that it is going to be okay. ‘Time will heal the loss/separation’,’just get busy’, ‘divert your attention’….. I feel otherwise. The more you ignore the fact that you are angry or sad about this phase of your life, the more it is going to have a […]
When I was hunting for a safe, credible, sensible and useful group for single moms, I came to know about the Phoenix community. Initially, I was skeptical cos it was run by a single dad. However, I gave it a shot and since then, there has been no moment where I regretted for it. It's a family of strong people, who are different from the lot and have beautiful perspective towards things in life. In this group, I feel at home and feel good to celebrate the good days, vent out on the frustrating days, cry on the depressed days and yet I know they would never look down upon me. The wavelength and the bonding is so strong that you can never fall apart or go wrong even if you wish to.
Hats off to the man who is keeping the group intact with his light headedness ( I didn't mean it literally), wisdom, practical solutions and for giving a different angle to all kind of problems faced by the fellow members of the family. It takes enormous commitment and he is fantastic!!!
Looking forward to a great family/community for the single parents who can be rest assured that they will never be mistaken or judged, whatever profession they may be!!! I am myself, when am in the family....thanks to all the beautiful people out here....
I have been pulling double duty from the time my little dumpling was born. Nevertheless, many a times I have felt completely lost and defeated. This community helped me gain back my lost confidence, realizing that I am not alone in this journey. I have thoroughly enjoyed the chit-chats, meet-ups, trips and candid discussions in our group. The urge to run away from life has reduced a lot since. The world just opened with its enormous possibilities and I started dreaming again!