Pre-court tension: 8 am What do you wear when you go to court? I wondered standing in front of the mirror. Two years of separation and the @#$%% I married was about to appear in court for the first hearing of my divorce case. He had received summons! The initial euphoria of having thus saved […]
It wasn’t a fairy tale romance or love at first sight. A casual friendship took a turn at Cupid’s street. The friend turned into mon amour. In his company, I experienced beautiful feelings I never experienced before. After two decades on this planet this was a very new discovery and I wanted to enjoy it […]
My divorce case was in the mediation phase. Mediation if you could refer internet, would say a third party mediator facilitates meeting of two parties in a lawsuit. But my mediator had other plans. It was the second round of mediation then. I went all prepared. I had to be more prepared since I was […]
After joining an all-women’s group of more than 10000 women on Facebook, I noticed the increasing trend of anonymous posts by women facing domestic abuse, but unable to raise their voices due to lack of support from their parents and financial dependence on their husbands! These women only need a ray of hope, soothing words […]
Let me narrate a few pages from my life. When I was in an abusive relationship, I had to do almost everything for my child, all by myself. Dropping and picking him up from school, paying the school fees, preparing his lunch/snacks/dinner, taking him son out to play, to museums, and parks. So I was […]
Back in 2005 when I was in the US and still married, a dear friend – Auntie A, as my son calls her (back then she was a single mom) gifted my son a Christmas stocking. Handing over the stocking she said, ” From now on that’s where the card requesting Christmas presents from Santa […]
Finally, its judgement day!! My mind is serene. It raced back to an evening 6 years ago. I could see a shadow of me waiting outside the Court mediation center, confused and flustered. My almost 4 year old was chatting cheerfully with her Dad and her paternal family. Everyone appeared pleased, but me. The talks […]
I had a brilliant day at work. My MD is happy with the progress made by my department. it was a long and yet fruitful day at the office. I left with a smile. Now I stand outside my home, at the door, key in hand. I know my husband will not be home and […]
When I was hunting for a safe, credible, sensible and useful group for single moms, I came to know about the Phoenix community. Initially, I was skeptical cos it was run by a single dad. However, I gave it a shot and since then, there has been no moment where I regretted for it. It's a family of strong people, who are different from the lot and have beautiful perspective towards things in life. In this group, I feel at home and feel good to celebrate the good days, vent out on the frustrating days, cry on the depressed days and yet I know they would never look down upon me. The wavelength and the bonding is so strong that you can never fall apart or go wrong even if you wish to.
Hats off to the man who is keeping the group intact with his light headedness ( I didn't mean it literally), wisdom, practical solutions and for giving a different angle to all kind of problems faced by the fellow members of the family. It takes enormous commitment and he is fantastic!!!
Looking forward to a great family/community for the single parents who can be rest assured that they will never be mistaken or judged, whatever profession they may be!!! I am myself, when am in the family....thanks to all the beautiful people out here....
I joined this group after months of apprehension. But it turned out to be a great group. I found that I can be myself without being judged. I can express views without being afraid of being seen in wrong light. I can discuss things that I was not able to discuss with my family or other friends. It is a great tonic for me to come out of the loneliness and meet others who are going through similar situations. In addition to this the admin and members work hard in keeping people informed about legal and professional knowledge. I would and have recommended people to this group. I also wish there would be more initiatives like this in other parts of India.
Aakash VaniSeparated, Mom of 7 year old