Pre-court tension: 8 am What do you wear when you go to court? I wondered standing in front of the mirror. Two years of separation and the @#$%% I married was about to appear in court for the first hearing of my divorce case. He had received summons! The initial euphoria of having thus saved […]
It wasn’t a fairy tale romance or love at first sight. A casual friendship took a turn at Cupid’s street. The friend turned into mon amour. In his company, I experienced beautiful feelings I never experienced before. After two decades on this planet this was a very new discovery and I wanted to enjoy it […]
My divorce case was in the mediation phase. Mediation if you could refer internet, would say a third party mediator facilitates meeting of two parties in a lawsuit. But my mediator had other plans. It was the second round of mediation then. I went all prepared. I had to be more prepared since I was […]
After joining an all-women’s group of more than 10000 women on Facebook, I noticed the increasing trend of anonymous posts by women facing domestic abuse, but unable to raise their voices due to lack of support from their parents and financial dependence on their husbands! These women only need a ray of hope, soothing words […]
Let me narrate a few pages from my life. When I was in an abusive relationship, I had to do almost everything for my child, all by myself. Dropping and picking him up from school, paying the school fees, preparing his lunch/snacks/dinner, taking him son out to play, to museums, and parks. So I was […]
Back in 2005 when I was in the US and still married, a dear friend – Auntie A, as my son calls her (back then she was a single mom) gifted my son a Christmas stocking. Handing over the stocking she said, ” From now on that’s where the card requesting Christmas presents from Santa […]
Finally, its judgement day!! My mind is serene. It raced back to an evening 6 years ago. I could see a shadow of me waiting outside the Court mediation center, confused and flustered. My almost 4 year old was chatting cheerfully with her Dad and her paternal family. Everyone appeared pleased, but me. The talks […]
I had a brilliant day at work. My MD is happy with the progress made by my department. it was a long and yet fruitful day at the office. I left with a smile. Now I stand outside my home, at the door, key in hand. I know my husband will not be home and […]
I'm a new member. And while I have barely been part of this group for a couple of weeks, I already feel so warmly included. And even though I have not as yet shared any of my story with the group, there has been no pressure to do so. It's comforting for a change to know that others are going through what I have and am going through. More importantly, through the various conversations and especially these testimonials I realise that I'm not the only one getting through each day trying to be strong and keep it all together. Something many others won't understand. And the amazing thing is there is so much support to help you get through each day. This group to me seems to be one where strangers come together to become more than just friends.....a family by choice.
I never knew about a Single Parent community in Bangalore , until I attended an event on a Sunday evening with Phoenix Family members on the topic - Into the heart of a single parent . There I saw a bunch of likeminded people who had also gone through their episode of hardship , battled against their darkness of loneliness , just like me .
Over the last 8 years , I just focused on my negatives , felt hopeless and it was really hard . My fears where many. Was I being a good role model ? Was I teaching them life lessons ? Was I able to give them enough guidance ? But my whole perspective of life changed after meeting the Phoenix Family .They helped me to look at things with fresh eyes . Being a part of Phoenix family means to be in the company of someone who won't gamble with your heart , they give you honest answer right from their heart . Am happy to be a part of a phoenix family .