Hello my beautiful child, You are almost grown up. Almost a teenager and I never written you a letter like this before. I sit here and wonder about all the things I want to tell you, to teach you and to share with you. But there just don’t seem to be enough “right” moments. Or […]
My son Akash used to do well in Maths. He scored A grade in almost all the tests. But recently all he is getting are C grades. He is only in 3rd grade, but still I am worried about his foundations in mathematics. Similarly he is very slow in Hindi subject as well. He is […]
One of the constant complaints I heard from my son Akash’s school teachers was that he did not bring conflicts to the teacher’s attention at all. He handled them by himself. Sounds like a good thing, right? Wrong! It meant that he pushed and hit kids who tried to bully or hurt him. Still sounds […]
“Oh crap! I should not have done this to him”. “May be this would not have happened had I not been a single parent”. “He does not have anyone other than me”. Invariably all parents go through the “Oh my God! Am I a bad parent?” feeling. And single parenting sometimes has the effect of […]
One year ago, I had the chance of interacting with a family that had recently moved into the neighbourhood. They had a unique way of dealing with their kids’ mistakes; I call it unique because I had not seen other parents use this approach till then. When a mistake occurred, they analyzed the reason behind […]
“Somedays I wish I could go back in life. Not to change anything but to feel a few things twice” Pregnancy is one such magical experience in a woman’s life. I would give anything to feel again for the first time those happy hormones that make you ecstatic forgetting all the realities. After all it […]
“Daddy, why did you bring me birthday cake that looks like a game of scrabble? You should have made it a cake that looked like Scotland Yard instead”. Now that was one of the more recent complaints I got to hear from my son who is spoiled for choice. Nevertheless, that pushes me to invent […]
‘Do not go soft on your son thinking he has only you’, advised my son’s pediatrician after I got into my single parenthood. You will have to be strict with him whenever required. This was very hard for me to digest initially, how can I set rules or raise my voice on a 6 year […]
“Mom, Mom, Mom, Mom”, came running my son, screaming with excitement. He dropped his tuition bag on to the sofa and frantically searched for something amidst his toys. “What? What are you searching for?” I asked showcasing mild excitement. “I need my shovel” he said “Why? What is it for?” I asked “I am going […]
My son “S”, all of 7 yrs and 7 months old (he is very particular of the months added to his age!), is an extremely talkative, curious & mischievous boy…. as all boys probably are at this age. He is also, in my quite biased view, a rather considerate, kind and sensible kid who manages […]
I never knew about a Single Parent community in Bangalore , until I attended an event on a Sunday evening with Phoenix Family members on the topic - Into the heart of a single parent . There I saw a bunch of likeminded people who had also gone through their episode of hardship , battled against their darkness of loneliness , just like me .
Over the last 8 years , I just focused on my negatives , felt hopeless and it was really hard . My fears where many. Was I being a good role model ? Was I teaching them life lessons ? Was I able to give them enough guidance ? But my whole perspective of life changed after meeting the Phoenix Family .They helped me to look at things with fresh eyes . Being a part of Phoenix family means to be in the company of someone who won't gamble with your heart , they give you honest answer right from their heart . Am happy to be a part of a phoenix family .
I was afraid if I can manage life after my loss... But knowing all of you I gained the belief that I can survive. I used to cry for hours together though I knew he is not going to come back and crying will not change anything better. Sharing my depression with this group and the way you handled me gave the confidence that I have ppl on the same boat to help me and motivate me when I am down.... Now that I know I have the liberty to crib and feel low... I am not at all feeling low . If I had not known this group, I would have pretended to be happy in weekends and spent my time crying on weekdays. I would have entered depression without my knowledge.... Now I am sure that even if I want to go into depression I cannot . Thanks for all your support. Thanks for bringing me into this group