Last week I was watching my regular reality TV show when I started feeling a change in my mood. I was beginning to relate one of the characters on TV with my late wife. Then out of nowhere a flood of emotions, mostly sadness and anger, ensued. This is not the first time that I […]
Until last June, whenever my son received a birthday party invite I dreaded it. Not because I did not want him to go and enjoy the birthday party, but I knew what would be our conversation that night at bedtime. Since the age of 5 after each birthday party, during bedtime while I would be […]
The leaves are shriveling in absence of water. They don’t remember what color they were, How the breeze made them sway, Or how sunshine reflected off of them. They’re barely surviving in the dull brown that they hv become now. They see the flowering plant nearby blooming in all its glory, watered and cared for, […]
“Oh crap! I should not have done this to him”. “May be this would not have happened had I not been a single parent”. “He does not have anyone other than me”. Invariably all parents go through the “Oh my God! Am I a bad parent?” feeling. And single parenting sometimes has the effect of […]
As much as we wish and pray that the ex be gone from our life, they don’t. They were a part of our past life, and will be a part of our future life. It may be not to the extent as it was in the past, but at least to some minimal level. Especially […]
Lately, I had been receiving complaints about my son from school. I was told that he doesn’t sit still, and always troubled others. His shenanigans were noticed by teachers and even the vice principal, so much so that she warned me about suspension or even worse, dismissal from school. I felt my heart sink deeper […]
Most of us who become bachelor(ette) the second time around, are often told that it is going to be okay. ‘Time will heal the loss/separation’,’just get busy’, ‘divert your attention’….. I feel otherwise. The more you ignore the fact that you are angry or sad about this phase of your life, the more it is going to have a […]
I joined this group after months of apprehension. But it turned out to be a great group. I found that I can be myself without being judged. I can express views without being afraid of being seen in wrong light. I can discuss things that I was not able to discuss with my family or other friends. It is a great tonic for me to come out of the loneliness and meet others who are going through similar situations. In addition to this the admin and members work hard in keeping people informed about legal and professional knowledge. I would and have recommended people to this group. I also wish there would be more initiatives like this in other parts of India.
Aakash VaniSeparated, Mom of 7 year old
When I was hunting for a safe, credible, sensible and useful group for single moms, I came to know about the Phoenix community. Initially, I was skeptical cos it was run by a single dad. However, I gave it a shot and since then, there has been no moment where I regretted for it. It's a family of strong people, who are different from the lot and have beautiful perspective towards things in life. In this group, I feel at home and feel good to celebrate the good days, vent out on the frustrating days, cry on the depressed days and yet I know they would never look down upon me. The wavelength and the bonding is so strong that you can never fall apart or go wrong even if you wish to.
Hats off to the man who is keeping the group intact with his light headedness ( I didn't mean it literally), wisdom, practical solutions and for giving a different angle to all kind of problems faced by the fellow members of the family. It takes enormous commitment and he is fantastic!!!
Looking forward to a great family/community for the single parents who can be rest assured that they will never be mistaken or judged, whatever profession they may be!!! I am myself, when am in the family....thanks to all the beautiful people out here....