Its 5am and I don’t need to wake-up because I haven’t slept. Another sleepless night, getting out of bed is the most difficult part of the day. I don’t sleep but I want to stay in bed. Just crawl under the covers and disappear. The tears well up. Let me be! But I have no choice. Do […]
Where do you see yourself one hour from now? This was the question I asked myself every time I attended the family court sessions only to find that my ex had asked for more time and the next hearing date would be about a month later. This would be the question I asked myself before […]
Less than six months into my marriage I found myself at a lawyer’s office asking about options to end the marriage. If I said it was the hardest thing I have ever done it wouldn’t be true. There was a voice inside that prodded me on. A voice that had been subdued for a long […]
If someone asks me how you sailed out of your period of separation, I would in a moment say- family, friends and work! A lot of studies have found out that we are happier when we are with our friends as compared to when we are with our spouse/ family! We can comfortably share stuff […]
Some of the best advice I received during my initial days of second bachelorhood is take a break, go out and be with friends. I tried it. But the friend circle I had was limited. The friends with whom I did not have much touch with during married days, I did not get the same […]
Lately, I had been receiving complaints about my son from school. I was told that he doesn’t sit still, and always troubled others. His shenanigans were noticed by teachers and even the vice principal, so much so that she warned me about suspension or even worse, dismissal from school. I felt my heart sink deeper […]
“Fake it until you make it” is a popular catchphrase that helps people to fake confidence before they actually get it. It is not only applicable for confidence in corporate sector. It can also be used for any situation. By any, I mean any. During the stages of physical and emotional abuse in my marriage, […]
Another screaming and shouting session at home. Was there anything new to it? No…nothing at all. Wasn’t this the new normal? However, that day it was different. The usual screaming and shouting session ended with me walking out of my home slamming the door promising never to return again. I had made up my mind, I can’t […]
I never knew about a Single Parent community in Bangalore , until I attended an event on a Sunday evening with Phoenix Family members on the topic - Into the heart of a single parent . There I saw a bunch of likeminded people who had also gone through their episode of hardship , battled against their darkness of loneliness , just like me .
Over the last 8 years , I just focused on my negatives , felt hopeless and it was really hard . My fears where many. Was I being a good role model ? Was I teaching them life lessons ? Was I able to give them enough guidance ? But my whole perspective of life changed after meeting the Phoenix Family .They helped me to look at things with fresh eyes . Being a part of Phoenix family means to be in the company of someone who won't gamble with your heart , they give you honest answer right from their heart . Am happy to be a part of a phoenix family .
I'm a new member. And while I have barely been part of this group for a couple of weeks, I already feel so warmly included. And even though I have not as yet shared any of my story with the group, there has been no pressure to do so. It's comforting for a change to know that others are going through what I have and am going through. More importantly, through the various conversations and especially these testimonials I realise that I'm not the only one getting through each day trying to be strong and keep it all together. Something many others won't understand. And the amazing thing is there is so much support to help you get through each day. This group to me seems to be one where strangers come together to become more than just friends.....a family by choice.