Until last June, whenever my son received a birthday party invite I dreaded it. Not because I did not want him to go and enjoy the birthday party, but I knew what would be our conversation that night at bedtime. Since the age of 5 after each birthday party, during bedtime while I would be […]
This year started off with a bang. In January 2016, I broke both my ankle bones. And that wasn’t even the worst part of the damned year. Physical pain I came to learn, bad as it may seem, doesn’t hold a candle to the emotional pain of a fractured marriage. My chronically ill marriage was […]
“Somedays I wish I could go back in life. Not to change anything but to feel a few things twice” Pregnancy is one such magical experience in a woman’s life. I would give anything to feel again for the first time those happy hormones that make you ecstatic forgetting all the realities. After all it […]
I had married my soul-mate. Ours was a love story that had prevailed against all odds. It took me seven years and two childbirths to realize that I’d been kidding myself. Taking my husband down from the pedestal I’d placed him on, had been like giving myself an amputation, keeping the anesthesia on hold. Life […]
Today, as I dwell back on my past, my relationship has taught me the most essential lessons in my life – By ignoring me and my child completely, my ex taught me to be independent. I was grown up in an affluent family and as the younger kid, I was too often over protected by […]
We were on vacation to Manali, when my ex claimed that he had another emergency business meeting in Mumbai. He abandoned our son and me midway into our holiday. Our flight was scheduled the next day, anyways. I ignored the sinking sensation in my stomach the entire day. We returned to Mumbai the next day […]
It wasn’t a fairy tale romance or love at first sight. A casual friendship took a turn at Cupid’s street. The friend turned into mon amour. In his company, I experienced beautiful feelings I never experienced before. After two decades on this planet this was a very new discovery and I wanted to enjoy it […]
‘Why don’t you sleep on time?’, used to be my question most of the nights. ‘Oh, why don’t you carry on and sleep while I finish this action movie’ used to be my then-husband’s reply. Once, I woke up at around midnight and caught him watching (no, not a war scene but) an X rated […]
It is a general categorization by psychologists and experts who study best practices for raising boys, that boys undergo massive transformations every 7 years. First 0 to 7 years, they need lots of love and affection and touches and hugs. This makes them feel loved and safe. I am more interested in the age span […]
Just like any ordinary Indian woman, I began my married life with lots of hope and dreams. During the first one year, I took things in my stride. My husband was very specific about his wants and needs. Every time he looked at me, while I was eager to meet his eyes and have a […]
I have been pulling double duty from the time my little dumpling was born. Nevertheless, many a times I have felt completely lost and defeated. This community helped me gain back my lost confidence, realizing that I am not alone in this journey. I have thoroughly enjoyed the chit-chats, meet-ups, trips and candid discussions in our group. The urge to run away from life has reduced a lot since. The world just opened with its enormous possibilities and I started dreaming again!
I consider myself fortunate to have met a group like the phoenix family, especially during the most depressing and nerve-wracking phase of my life. They have listened to my rants, my sorrows, hopes and fears. Providing sound advice, helping and encouraging me at every step of this journey as a single parent. A warm and heartfelt shout out to the group admin and founder of the phoenix family, he's truly the soul of the group and the glue that holds all of us together. They're not just a group of friends anymore, they are family. Words cannot express how immensely grateful my daughter and I are to all of you. Much love.
The IllusionistSeparated, Mom of 3 year old