Hello my beautiful child, You are almost grown up. Almost a teenager and I never written you a letter like this before. I sit here and wonder about all the things I want to tell you, to teach you and to share with you. But there just don’t seem to be enough “right” moments. Or […]
My son Akash used to do well in Maths. He scored A grade in almost all the tests. But recently all he is getting are C grades. He is only in 3rd grade, but still I am worried about his foundations in mathematics. Similarly he is very slow in Hindi subject as well. He is […]
Its 5am and I don’t need to wake-up because I haven’t slept. Another sleepless night, getting out of bed is the most difficult part of the day. I don’t sleep but I want to stay in bed. Just crawl under the covers and disappear. The tears well up. Let me be! But I have no choice. Do […]
Until last June, whenever my son received a birthday party invite I dreaded it. Not because I did not want him to go and enjoy the birthday party, but I knew what would be our conversation that night at bedtime. Since the age of 5 after each birthday party, during bedtime while I would be […]
One of the constant complaints I heard from my son Akash’s school teachers was that he did not bring conflicts to the teacher’s attention at all. He handled them by himself. Sounds like a good thing, right? Wrong! It meant that he pushed and hit kids who tried to bully or hurt him. Still sounds […]
“Oh crap! I should not have done this to him”. “May be this would not have happened had I not been a single parent”. “He does not have anyone other than me”. Invariably all parents go through the “Oh my God! Am I a bad parent?” feeling. And single parenting sometimes has the effect of […]
“Daddy, why did you bring me birthday cake that looks like a game of scrabble? You should have made it a cake that looked like Scotland Yard instead”. Now that was one of the more recent complaints I got to hear from my son who is spoiled for choice. Nevertheless, that pushes me to invent […]
‘Do not go soft on your son thinking he has only you’, advised my son’s pediatrician after I got into my single parenthood. You will have to be strict with him whenever required. This was very hard for me to digest initially, how can I set rules or raise my voice on a 6 year […]
“Mom, Mom, Mom, Mom”, came running my son, screaming with excitement. He dropped his tuition bag on to the sofa and frantically searched for something amidst his toys. “What? What are you searching for?” I asked showcasing mild excitement. “I need my shovel” he said “Why? What is it for?” I asked “I am going […]
Lately, I had been receiving complaints about my son from school. I was told that he doesn’t sit still, and always troubled others. His shenanigans were noticed by teachers and even the vice principal, so much so that she warned me about suspension or even worse, dismissal from school. I felt my heart sink deeper […]
I'm a new member. And while I have barely been part of this group for a couple of weeks, I already feel so warmly included. And even though I have not as yet shared any of my story with the group, there has been no pressure to do so. It's comforting for a change to know that others are going through what I have and am going through. More importantly, through the various conversations and especially these testimonials I realise that I'm not the only one getting through each day trying to be strong and keep it all together. Something many others won't understand. And the amazing thing is there is so much support to help you get through each day. This group to me seems to be one where strangers come together to become more than just friends.....a family by choice.
I never knew about a Single Parent community in Bangalore , until I attended an event on a Sunday evening with Phoenix Family members on the topic - Into the heart of a single parent . There I saw a bunch of likeminded people who had also gone through their episode of hardship , battled against their darkness of loneliness , just like me .
Over the last 8 years , I just focused on my negatives , felt hopeless and it was really hard . My fears where many. Was I being a good role model ? Was I teaching them life lessons ? Was I able to give them enough guidance ? But my whole perspective of life changed after meeting the Phoenix Family .They helped me to look at things with fresh eyes . Being a part of Phoenix family means to be in the company of someone who won't gamble with your heart , they give you honest answer right from their heart . Am happy to be a part of a phoenix family .