Last week I was watching my regular reality TV show when I started feeling a change in my mood. I was beginning to relate one of the characters on TV with my late wife. Then out of nowhere a flood of emotions, mostly sadness and anger, ensued. This is not the first time that I […]
Where do you see yourself one hour from now? This was the question I asked myself every time I attended the family court sessions only to find that my ex had asked for more time and the next hearing date would be about a month later. This would be the question I asked myself before […]
Until last June, whenever my son received a birthday party invite I dreaded it. Not because I did not want him to go and enjoy the birthday party, but I knew what would be our conversation that night at bedtime. Since the age of 5 after each birthday party, during bedtime while I would be […]
Pre-court tension: 8 am What do you wear when you go to court? I wondered standing in front of the mirror. Two years of separation and the @#$%% I married was about to appear in court for the first hearing of my divorce case. He had received summons! The initial euphoria of having thus saved […]
The leaves are shriveling in absence of water. They don’t remember what color they were, How the breeze made them sway, Or how sunshine reflected off of them. They’re barely surviving in the dull brown that they hv become now. They see the flowering plant nearby blooming in all its glory, watered and cared for, […]
Less than six months into my marriage I found myself at a lawyer’s office asking about options to end the marriage. If I said it was the hardest thing I have ever done it wouldn’t be true. There was a voice inside that prodded me on. A voice that had been subdued for a long […]
“Oh crap! I should not have done this to him”. “May be this would not have happened had I not been a single parent”. “He does not have anyone other than me”. Invariably all parents go through the “Oh my God! Am I a bad parent?” feeling. And single parenting sometimes has the effect of […]
“Somedays I wish I could go back in life. Not to change anything but to feel a few things twice” Pregnancy is one such magical experience in a woman’s life. I would give anything to feel again for the first time those happy hormones that make you ecstatic forgetting all the realities. After all it […]
Today, as I dwell back on my past, my relationship has taught me the most essential lessons in my life – By ignoring me and my child completely, my ex taught me to be independent. I was grown up in an affluent family and as the younger kid, I was too often over protected by […]
If someone asks me how you sailed out of your period of separation, I would in a moment say- family, friends and work! A lot of studies have found out that we are happier when we are with our friends as compared to when we are with our spouse/ family! We can comfortably share stuff […]
I never knew about a Single Parent community in Bangalore , until I attended an event on a Sunday evening with Phoenix Family members on the topic - Into the heart of a single parent . There I saw a bunch of likeminded people who had also gone through their episode of hardship , battled against their darkness of loneliness , just like me .
Over the last 8 years , I just focused on my negatives , felt hopeless and it was really hard . My fears where many. Was I being a good role model ? Was I teaching them life lessons ? Was I able to give them enough guidance ? But my whole perspective of life changed after meeting the Phoenix Family .They helped me to look at things with fresh eyes . Being a part of Phoenix family means to be in the company of someone who won't gamble with your heart , they give you honest answer right from their heart . Am happy to be a part of a phoenix family .
Phoenix family has made a huge impact on life! M only saying this because, I met a friend of mine recently. We hadn't talked since 8 years! She said that she had seen a drastic change in me. Accordingly, I was an extremely shy woman the last time we met! But now, I am a whole new person!! I am more confident, determined and focused on what I want in life, not only that, I can manage and keep things well balanced which I could not have 8 years ago... For this drastic change in me, phoenix family is one of the main reasons. So thanks a lot for playing a great role in my life and making me what I am today!