Last week I was watching my regular reality TV show when I started feeling a change in my mood. I was beginning to relate one of the characters on TV with my late wife. Then out of nowhere a flood of emotions, mostly sadness and anger, ensued. This is not the first time that I […]
A widower and single dad with huge appetite for food, travel and movies. A book-o-phobic and founder of "The Phoenix Family" community.
“Oh crap! I should not have done this to him”. “May be this would not have happened had I not been a single parent”. “He does not have anyone other than me”. Invariably all parents go through the “Oh my God! Am I a bad parent?” feeling. And single parenting sometimes has the effect of […]
“Daddy, why did you bring me birthday cake that looks like a game of scrabble? You should have made it a cake that looked like Scotland Yard instead”. Now that was one of the more recent complaints I got to hear from my son who is spoiled for choice. Nevertheless, that pushes me to invent […]
‘Do not go soft on your son thinking he has only you’, advised my son’s pediatrician after I got into my single parenthood. You will have to be strict with him whenever required. This was very hard for me to digest initially, how can I set rules or raise my voice on a 6 year […]
Some of the best advice I received during my initial days of second bachelorhood is take a break, go out and be with friends. I tried it. But the friend circle I had was limited. The friends with whom I did not have much touch with during married days, I did not get the same […]
I’d say most of us are a part of this rat race, watching our peers grow. Why do I feel so? I was, or rather I am party to this rat race. The cost of living is high, my peers buy houses, inflation… run the race, earn more… push working hours, impress boss, get a […]
“Daddy, I do not want to talk about it”, was my then 6 year old’s response when I asked him if he missed his mother. I was worried he was suppressing his grief and needed to be more expressive. It all started when his class teacher noticed he was making more than usual drawings in […]
Year 2013- My son was 6 years old and was attending school. I was with the doctor. The doctor held my hand and said it was over. Your wife is no more, please start informing your family – was his message. The first thing which struck me was how was I going to disclose this […]
Most of us who become bachelor(ette) the second time around, are often told that it is going to be okay. ‘Time will heal the loss/separation’,’just get busy’, ‘divert your attention’….. I feel otherwise. The more you ignore the fact that you are angry or sad about this phase of your life, the more it is going to have a […]
After the sudden loss of my wife, I was confused with several questions running inside my head. Not knowing what’s next. Looking for answers, I made a friend who happened to be a widow. We were able to relate to each other’s problem easily. The non-judgmental advice and empathy we had for each other, helped […]
I consider myself fortunate to have met a group like the phoenix family, especially during the most depressing and nerve-wracking phase of my life. They have listened to my rants, my sorrows, hopes and fears. Providing sound advice, helping and encouraging me at every step of this journey as a single parent. A warm and heartfelt shout out to the group admin and founder of the phoenix family, he's truly the soul of the group and the glue that holds all of us together. They're not just a group of friends anymore, they are family. Words cannot express how immensely grateful my daughter and I are to all of you. Much love.
The IllusionistSeparated, Mom of 3 year old
After the sudden dismissal of my loving husband, life for me and kids was like paused... we lost all the fun, laughter’s and family times we used to have together as a family … upon forced invitation I used to attend some gatherings and found that I don’t have anything common to talk nor anyone in this world had time to know what was happening in mine and kids life ... One fortunate day got to know about this Family and a it happened that I and kids were part of an event and I got to meet most wonderful, patient, and loving people of this family … all were just like me and going through lives challenges alone and still each one was so persistent enough to listen to family members issues and give support n encourage them as much as possible.. . I had a strong feeling that there is a family which cares for me and kids too ... at times when I felt low and to my surprise I would get a message from the admin or by any members of this family, just ask how I am and if I needed any help .. Its gods greatest blessings that I n my kids are part of this family. Thanks to Admin for going that extra mile to be there for all the family members … god bless and keep this going