Where do you see yourself one hour from now? This was the question I asked myself every time I attended the family court sessions only to find that my ex had asked for more time and the next hearing date would be about a month later. This would be the question I asked myself before […]
About Aakash Vani
Woman and mother. Seeker and Optimist working towards a quality life.
One of the constant complaints I heard from my son Akash’s school teachers was that he did not bring conflicts to the teacher’s attention at all. He handled them by himself. Sounds like a good thing, right? Wrong! It meant that he pushed and hit kids who tried to bully or hurt him. Still sounds […]
One year ago, I had the chance of interacting with a family that had recently moved into the neighbourhood. They had a unique way of dealing with their kids’ mistakes; I call it unique because I had not seen other parents use this approach till then. When a mistake occurred, they analyzed the reason behind […]
Three years ago, had someone told me that I would not only survive, but also lead a comfortable life without owning a car or any other vehicle in India, I would have called them crazy. I am a person who loves being autonomous and independent. Associating the picture of driving a car with power was […]
As much as we wish and pray that the ex be gone from our life, they don’t. They were a part of our past life, and will be a part of our future life. It may be not to the extent as it was in the past, but at least to some minimal level. Especially […]
“Mom, Mom, Mom, Mom”, came running my son, screaming with excitement. He dropped his tuition bag on to the sofa and frantically searched for something amidst his toys. “What? What are you searching for?” I asked showcasing mild excitement. “I need my shovel” he said “Why? What is it for?” I asked “I am going […]
Lately, I had been receiving complaints about my son from school. I was told that he doesn’t sit still, and always troubled others. His shenanigans were noticed by teachers and even the vice principal, so much so that she warned me about suspension or even worse, dismissal from school. I felt my heart sink deeper […]
It is a general categorization by psychologists and experts who study best practices for raising boys, that boys undergo massive transformations every 7 years. First 0 to 7 years, they need lots of love and affection and touches and hugs. This makes them feel loved and safe. I am more interested in the age span […]
Just like any ordinary Indian woman, I began my married life with lots of hope and dreams. During the first one year, I took things in my stride. My husband was very specific about his wants and needs. Every time he looked at me, while I was eager to meet his eyes and have a […]
Let me narrate a few pages from my life. When I was in an abusive relationship, I had to do almost everything for my child, all by myself. Dropping and picking him up from school, paying the school fees, preparing his lunch/snacks/dinner, taking him son out to play, to museums, and parks. So I was […]
Phoenix family has made a huge impact on life! M only saying this because, I met a friend of mine recently. We hadn't talked since 8 years! She said that she had seen a drastic change in me. Accordingly, I was an extremely shy woman the last time we met! But now, I am a whole new person!! I am more confident, determined and focused on what I want in life, not only that, I can manage and keep things well balanced which I could not have 8 years ago... For this drastic change in me, phoenix family is one of the main reasons. So thanks a lot for playing a great role in my life and making me what I am today!
I never knew about a Single Parent community in Bangalore , until I attended an event on a Sunday evening with Phoenix Family members on the topic - Into the heart of a single parent . There I saw a bunch of likeminded people who had also gone through their episode of hardship , battled against their darkness of loneliness , just like me .
Over the last 8 years , I just focused on my negatives , felt hopeless and it was really hard . My fears where many. Was I being a good role model ? Was I teaching them life lessons ? Was I able to give them enough guidance ? But my whole perspective of life changed after meeting the Phoenix Family .They helped me to look at things with fresh eyes . Being a part of Phoenix family means to be in the company of someone who won't gamble with your heart , they give you honest answer right from their heart . Am happy to be a part of a phoenix family .