Rebuilding after separation or loss
Single parents are often overwhelmed with the number of thoughts that flood their minds on what is in store for them. We would like to publish a small piece of information collated by Dr. Ali Khwaja for a session he gave for The Phoenix Family members. We believe this will provide some clarity in the […]
After life
I was dead a few moments ago, Fired by flames that fumed by ego. I am stripped of all my illness, And spared of my earthly heaviness. Lost senses have made me feel, The light that is now so real. I am getting drawn to a zone, Every emotion feels like home. The journey is […]
Happy for me
2017 — a year that changed my life. Things that I thought would last forever came to an end this year. My discoveries of being betrayed hurt every bone of my body till I became numb. I was filled with anger and rage. Wanted to destroy them all. My family & close friends stood by […]
Emotional Honesty and Management for Single Parents – Session by Dr. Ali Khwaja
This is the audio recording of the session ‘The Phoenix Family’ (www.thephoenixfamily.in) organized in Bangalore with Dr. Ali Khwaja, chairman of Banjara Academy (www.banjaraacademy.org) on September 3rd, 2017. Sub topics discussed are: Facts and benefits of emotional honesty https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wbvlZ… Does emotional honesty go against positive thinking? The more I hate some one, do I not […]
Emotional upheaval
Last week I was watching my regular reality TV show when I started feeling a change in my mood. I was beginning to relate one of the characters on TV with my late wife. Then out of nowhere a flood of emotions, mostly sadness and anger, ensued. This is not the first time that I […]
Divorce diary: Rookie in the Courtroom
Pre-court tension: 8 am What do you wear when you go to court? I wondered standing in front of the mirror. Two years of separation and the @#$%% I married was about to appear in court for the first hearing of my divorce case. He had received summons! The initial euphoria of having thus saved […]
Finding my voice
Less than six months into my marriage I found myself at a lawyer’s office asking about options to end the marriage. If I said it was the hardest thing I have ever done it wouldn’t be true. There was a voice inside that prodded me on. A voice that had been subdued for a long […]
Closure of past for Single Parents – Session with Dr. Ali Khwaja
This is the audio recording of the session ‘The Phoenix Family’ (www.thephoenixfamily.in) organized in Bangalore with Dr. Ali Khwaja, chairman of Banjara Academy (www.banjaraacademy.org) on March 4, 2017. Sub topics discussed are: Grieving process stages after Spouse death (00 min 52 sec) https://youtu.be/c4Nf1Vq2Qns?t=52s Death of relationship (09 min 32 sec) https://youtu.be/c4Nf1Vq2Qns?t=9m32s Question raised by children […]
Adieu 2016
This year started off with a bang. In January 2016, I broke both my ankle bones. And that wasn’t even the worst part of the damned year. Physical pain I came to learn, bad as it may seem, doesn’t hold a candle to the emotional pain of a fractured marriage. My chronically ill marriage was […]
Testimonials
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I was afraid if I can manage life after my loss... But knowing all of you I gained the belief that I can survive. I used to cry for hours together though I knew he is not going to come back and crying will not change anything better. Sharing my depression with this group and the way you handled me gave the confidence that I have ppl on the same boat to help me and motivate me when I am down.... Now that I know I have the liberty to crib and feel low... I am not at all feeling low . If I had not known this group, I would have pretended to be happy in weekends and spent my time crying on weekdays. I would have entered depression without my knowledge.... Now I am sure that even if I want to go into depression I cannot . Thanks for all your support. Thanks for bringing me into this group
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I joined this group after months of apprehension. But it turned out to be a great group. I found that I can be myself without being judged. I can express views without being afraid of being seen in wrong light. I can discuss things that I was not able to discuss with my family or other friends. It is a great tonic for me to come out of the loneliness and meet others who are going through similar situations. In addition to this the admin and members work hard in keeping people informed about legal and professional knowledge. I would and have recommended people to this group. I also wish there would be more initiatives like this in other parts of India.
